Some helpful tips and tricks when you want some ~me time~.
We asked people of all ages, genders, and sexualities in the BuzzFeed Community to tell us their best masturbation tips. Here are the techniques you might want to try yourself.
Obviously everyone’s bodies, interests, and experiences are different, so not all of these will apply to you. Feel free to take what you want and leave the rest.
Lie on your stomach and press against your vulva with the base of your thumb.
Watch yourself in the mirror while you masturbate.
Try using warming and cooling lubricants so your body can experience new types of sensations.
Squeeze your clitoris with your index finger and thumb.
If you have a penis, fold your pillow in half and then go to town on it.
Do kegels as you’re building up to climax.
Put some lube inside a condom for your very own DIY masturbation sleeve.
Or you can do the same with a plastic baggie, lotion, and petroleum jelly.
Try masturbating to music and timing your crescendo with the song.
Try using a vibrator on your balls and perineum to intensify your experience.
Watch or listen to instruction and encouragement videos where someone literally tells you what to do.
Experiment with edging (stopping yourself right before you come, waiting, and then getting right back into it) to intensify your potential orgasm.
If you like nipple play/stimulation (or want to experiment a little), attach bobby pins to your nipples and give them a little tug.
Try masturbating without using any hands by simulating penetrative sex with a soft, folded-up blanket.
Don’t ignore your butt.
If your vulva is sensitive, try masturbating over your underwear.
Experiment by just playing with the head of your dick while masturbating.
If you’re watching porn, try to time everything so you finish exactly when the actors do.
Change up your positions. For example, lying on your back and putting your legs in a diamond/butterfly position may give you more control.
Truly invest in this “me time” and make masturbating more of an event, sort of like you’re going on a date with yourself.
If you typically watch videos while masturbating, try switching it up and reading some sexy stories instead.
Don’t be scared to get a little more rough and intimate with yourself.
If you have balls, play with them.
Switch things up by jerking off with your non-dominant hand, or by using your dominant hand… only backwards (with your thumb pointing towards you).
Don’t be afraid to experiment with all types of sex toys.
And if you really want to take the pressure off of yourself, turn everything into a game by giving yourself a time limit that you need to come by.